Who the F#%& Cares if You're Single for Valentine's Day

One is NOT the loneliest number.

Today is the day before Valentine's Day. Yuck. Truth be told, I've always rolled my eyes at the commercialization of a day that plays into people's vulnerabilities. If you're attached on Valentine's Day, you will feel obligated to purchase a sweet or sparkly (possibly expensive) gift for that special someone to conform to social standards of expressing your love and admiration. If you're single, they aim to make you feel shit out of luck - you scramble to find a date with your neat dating app or you take a bestie or yourself alone out to dinner, and if you do the latter, you run the risk of sitting at a table for one surrounded by couples. Possibly feeling awkward over a bowl of your favorite pasta dish, you wash that down with a bottle of wine and top it off with dessert for two eaten by one. 

I LOVED being single. When I say I loved it, I actually mean I loved the living hell out of my unattached status. Mostly because I knew that not having a significant other did not define who I was as a woman. I had so much fun you wouldn't believe my stories if I told you. Around this time of year, though, I felt a certain tug at my soul that subconsciously caused me to crave not feeling so alone. I fell for the Valentine's Day crush and rushed out to purchase lingerie I inevitably wore for myself. Everyone else seems to have had someone. In commercials, in the park where I ran, every freaking where every freaking person seemed madly in love, except for me. 

That's how the commercial industry wants you to feel. This is where the next bump in revenues comes from post-holiday season. If it weren't for Valentine's Day, the most people would be rushing out to buy is swimwear or Spring line fashion. Don't buy into it. Don't allow yourself feel bad for flying solo on a day that has violent roots that has magically been proclaimed to force lovers to purchase gifts for one another. You won't be single forever (unless you choose to be). 

"When the soul is ready, the mate appears." ~Unknown

Embrace your singlehood as the sacred time to spend with yourself. Indulge in luxurious self care. Read a book that lights your soul up. Connect with the bliss within. 

Don't let some stupid day out of the year (and the people who enjoy celebrating it) make you feel bad. When you meet the right person for you, Valentine's Day won't make a difference because every day will be full of surprise and gifts and boundless, unadulterated loved-by-the-best-person-ever bliss.

What do you love most about being single? 

How do you celebrate yourself on a daily basis? 

What are you looking forward to in a mate?

Full Disclosure: I do love Tiffany's (it's what my husband gave me for our first Valentine's Day together) but I have informed my loverman to only shower me with luxury gifts during worthy celebratory occasions and not hyper-commercialized ones.

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